Tag: how to improve my relationship

Asking vs Telling: 4 steps for success

Whether I’m working with people in their business or with couples in their relationship, I hear comments regularly that indicate that asking vs telling is an unkept secret for business and relationship success.  Comments such as: “Why doesn’t she understand?  I told her how.” “It’s his own fault because I told him what he needed… Read more »

Fear Always Divides

Yes, it is true, “fear always divides.” Just look around. People are afraid to be close to each other, afraid to hug, afraid to visit family and friends, afraid to sneeze in a public place, afraid to drive or fly, etc. Fear disconnects people in a time when we need connection more than ever. We… Read more »

Anger: A Curse Or An Ally

A story from long time ago when anger was not my ally.  I wish I’d have known how to deal effectively with anger. It was a teenage party at a public campground. Joking and laughing around a campfire. My best friend, Tim, dropped his empty beer bottle on the ground and stomped on it, breaking… Read more »

What is Success in Your Relationship?

How do you define success in your relationship? How does your partner define it?  Have you had that conversation? To create greater success in your relationship, and to give yourselves time and space to talk about it, we invite you to consider attending the Rocky Mountain Couples Retreate on March 6 – 8, 2020, at… Read more »

Why Have a Personal Retreat

People ask us, “Why do you take the time to have a personal retreat?” We find that what works in business, works in our personal relationship.  There is huge value in having focused time, with an agenda, to have honest, open dialogue and to ensure we create our lives by our design. Check it out…. Read more »

2 Unkept Secrets For Lasting Happiness

In speaking engagements or workshops, I’ll occasionally ask, “Who would like a bit more happiness?”  I’ve never met anyone who replied, “No, I’ve got enough happiness.  I don’t want any more.” I believe that happiness can be measured on a continuum from 1 to 10, with 10 being extreme happiness, maybe described as bliss.  In… Read more »

The Nasty Intention/Impact Gap: 7 Tips For Resolve

I once read, “We value ourselves by our intentions. Others value us by our impact.”  Hmmm?  It’s the gap between that often causes challenges, isn’t it? Example: Recently, Carol and I were debriefing after a couples coaching session – a lively celebratory dialogue.  Carol began to apologize for her interjection into the flow of the… Read more »

Drama Addiction: Is it a resource-sucker for you?

I’ve not seen any research about the social and economic impacts of drama-addiction.  Have you?  Like any addiction, there is a huge cost. Maybe there is no qualitative or quantitative research because most of us are so immersed in our dramas, we don’t even recognize it’s a problem. I invite you to step back from… Read more »

Is Your Relationship Losing The Device War?

Walking in West Edmonton Mall recently, we were more acutely aware of the device war that seems to be escalating in our society. This device war is destroying intimate relationships, families, communities, businesses, and maybe the world (based on what we see and hear about our political leaders).  A new-age world war, maybe?  What do… Read more »