Tag: marriage help

The Past, Future, and NOW: prioritizing what’s most important

What were some of your most important learnings from last year, and commitments for this year? Did they have anything to do with prioritizing what’s most important? We’ve lost “normalicy” and gained greater awareness of how we want to show up in life every day. It’s not the doingness but the beingness that helps us… Read more »

Be Interested Rather Than Invested?

In some of our previous podcasts, you might have noticed the theme of “be interested rather than invested” when it comes to communication, however not specifically in those words. This is a bit more overt – ‘cause it just happened. I woke up and immediately noticed that something was different.  As I re-entered consciousness from the… Read more »

Value Of A Relationship Vision

Imagine… Imagine it is 20, 30, 40 years from now. What do you want your relationship with your spouse/partner to look like, sound like, & feel like. There is huge attracting value in taking the time to create your bright, compelling relationship vision. Let’s chat about it, shall we? Subscribe to Spotifyor Apple Podcasts so you ensure you… Read more »

Anger: A Curse Or An Ally

A story from long time ago when anger was not my ally.  I wish I’d have known how to deal effectively with anger. It was a teenage party at a public campground. Joking and laughing around a campfire. My best friend, Tim, dropped his empty beer bottle on the ground and stomped on it, breaking… Read more »

Commitment To Your Relationship: Close The Escape Hatch – NOW

I invite you to be totally honest with yourself.  On a scale from 1 to 10, what is your commitment to your relationship now – to make it thrive, no matter what (1 means not committed at all, and 10 means totally in)? My perception from watching what happens with couples in society, and with… Read more »

How Do You Add Fun To Your Relationship?

“Fun in your relationship? What d’ya mean?” I thought that was an interesting response to my question during a coaching session. It is so important to keep some spice, spontaneity, and pizzazz alive – so it doesn’t get boring. It also makes it easier to focus on what’s strong; rather than what’s wrong. What are… Read more »

Asking vs. Telling – An Un-kept Secret

“Why doesn’t she understand?  I told her how.” “It’s his own fault that happened.  I told him what he should do.” “I told her and told her and told her and she still doesn’t do it right.” Whether I’m working with business teams or couples, I regularly hear these comments.  Results clearly show they do… Read more »

Hearing Aids Don’t Mean I Understand You

Just because I hear, it doesn’t mean I understand. Have you had that experience? Insight: After countless experiences of having to ask, ”I beg your pardon?” or “Could you please repeat that?” or simply, “Huh?”, I finally got hearing aids. Other than marriage to Carol, this is one of the best decisions I’ve made. Or… Read more »

What is Success in Your Relationship?

How do you define success in your relationship? How does your partner define it?  Have you had that conversation? To create greater success in your relationship, and to give yourselves time and space to talk about it, we invite you to consider attending the Rocky Mountain Couples Retreate on March 6 – 8, 2020, at… Read more »

The Nasty Intention/Impact Gap: 7 Tips For Resolve

I once read, “We value ourselves by our intentions. Others value us by our impact.”  Hmmm?  It’s the gap between that often causes challenges, isn’t it? Example: Recently, Carol and I were debriefing after a couples coaching session – a lively celebratory dialogue.  Carol began to apologize for her interjection into the flow of the… Read more »