Category: Professional Relationships

3 Steps To Apologize Effectively

Can a dude born in 1706 teach us the 3 steps to apologize effectively? I don’t know what this guy knew about a primary relationship. Yet, good ol’ Ben Franklin was esteemed for his ability to communicate well. Let’s take what he said and give you our always-work (aka: never-fail) steps for apologies. We’re assuming… Read more »

Goals vs Intentions: Dealing with the New Year reality hit

January is almost gone. What has happened for you regarding your goals and plans for this year? Or more importantly, who are you being each day based on your intentions? Hmmm – goals vs intentions. I believe there are some misunderstandings about intentions and how they relate to goals and plans.  That’s why there are… Read more »

The Past, Future, and NOW: prioritizing what’s most important

What were some of your most important learnings from last year, and commitments for this year? Did they have anything to do with prioritizing what’s most important? We’ve lost “normalicy” and gained greater awareness of how we want to show up in life every day. It’s not the doingness but the beingness that helps us… Read more »

Emotional Awareness: A life-changer

Emotional awareness?  Or more specifically, what are you feeling right now? You may be thinking, “It doesn’t really matter what I’m feeling.  It’s what I’m doing that is most important.” I believe most of us experience life backwards.  We do activities, experience situations, hear conversations, and allow those things to “make” us feel whatever we’re… Read more »

Conflict In Our Relationship? It’s A Good Thing

You might be thinking, “No, Dan, conflict is NOT a good thing.  We don’t want conflict in our relationship.  Conflict is hard work and it tears us apart.” I understand. Whether we’re coaching with a couple, I’m coaching with an executive, or in Communication Excellence training with a corporate team, reducing conflict is often one… Read more »

Mindful About Mindfulness: Decision-making made easy

This morning, after my meditation, I was thinking about mindfulness.  Yes, that sounds ridiculous. I started laughing at myself, too.  “Thinking” and “mindfulness” are two totally different approaches. To be mindful about mindfulness is more appropriate. One of my habits is to overthink a situation, which often has me in an “analysis paralysis” mode.  I… Read more »

Asking vs. Telling – An Un-kept Secret

“Why doesn’t she understand?  I told her how.” “It’s his own fault that happened.  I told him what he should do.” “I told her and told her and told her and she still doesn’t do it right.” Whether I’m working with business teams or couples, I regularly hear these comments.  Results clearly show they do… Read more »

The Attachment Dilemma; A big lesson

In the past, Carol and I planned, organized, and facilitated weekend workshops for couples. The expectation was to have 15 couples together for an enlightening learning experience, as well as for them to have a celebration of the work they were doing in their relationships. I found it extremely challenging to market these to capacity. … Read more »

Lessons From a Six-Year-Old

I’ve been volunteering with the Summer Reading Program at our local library where I learned some valuable lessons from a six-year-old. We were writing some stories that needed to include specific words. A young man asked, “How do you spell there?” One of the library staff inquired about what type of ‘there’ he meant. He… Read more »

Life-long Learning in Relationships

Life!! The more I learn about it, the more I realize how little I know. Especially when it comes to relationships – the foundation of any family or business. Today, what have you learned about the people you love? Asking good questions, listening, and learning deepens the trust. We invite you to send us a… Read more »