Asking vs Telling: 4 steps for success

Whether I’m working with people in their business or with couples in their relationship, I hear comments regularly that indicate that asking vs telling is an unkept secret for business and relationship success.  Comments such as: “Why doesn’t she understand?  I told her how.” “It’s his own fault because I told him what he needed… Read more »

Fear Always Divides

Yes, it is true, “fear always divides.” Just look around. People are afraid to be close to each other, afraid to hug, afraid to visit family and friends, afraid to sneeze in a public place, afraid to drive or fly, etc. Fear disconnects people in a time when we need connection more than ever. We… Read more »

Live Life As An Experiment

With the world’s craziness, where normal doesn’t seem normal, I ponder, “What is life all about?” Why not have some fun with it, and live life as an experiment? In an experiment, there is no right or wrong, only results. You get to decide what results you keep. That’s accountability in the biggest way and… Read more »

3 Steps To Apologize Effectively

Can a dude born in 1706 teach us the 3 steps to apologize effectively? I don’t know what this guy knew about a primary relationship. Yet, good ol’ Ben Franklin was esteemed for his ability to communicate well. Let’s take what he said and give you our always-work (aka: never-fail) steps for apologies. We’re assuming… Read more »

Must Be Present To Win

Imagine this. It’s half-time intermission at the football game. You’ve purchased your 50/50 ticket and the announcer says, “The winning ticket will be drawn at the end of the game. You must be present to win.” That is an incredible metaphor for any relationship. What does it mean to you to “win” in your relationship?… Read more »

Valentines Message For The Whole Year

What does Valentine’s Day mean to you? More importantly, what is it about Valentine’s Day, or the Month of Romance, that you can apply everyday of the year? What results will you experience when you do that? We’d love to hear your feedback. We’d also like to learn about specific challenges you face in your… Read more »

Turn Up The Heat In Your Relationship

It’s COLD outside!!!! So, what do you do? Turn up the heat in your home to make it comfortable. Doesn’t it make sense to apply the same strategy when you notice your relationship with your sweetie is a bit cool – or maybe really COLD? What will you do TODAY, to turn up the heat… Read more »

Goals vs Intentions: Dealing with the New Year reality hit

January is almost gone. What has happened for you regarding your goals and plans for this year? Or more importantly, who are you being each day based on your intentions? Hmmm – goals vs intentions. I believe there are some misunderstandings about intentions and how they relate to goals and plans.  That’s why there are… Read more »

The Past, Future, and NOW: prioritizing what’s most important

What were some of your most important learnings from last year, and commitments for this year? Did they have anything to do with prioritizing what’s most important? We’ve lost “normalicy” and gained greater awareness of how we want to show up in life every day. It’s not the doingness but the beingness that helps us… Read more »

Antidote To The Drama Cycle

In the last podcast, we talked about the Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT), as described by Stephen Karmpan. If you are like me, and all the people I know, you’ve been in the drama cycle. But the question is always, “How do we get out of it?” This episode will give you deeper understanding and some… Read more »