Tag: accountability

The Joy Of Mediocrity

We strive for perfection (or at least excellence), so what’s this deal about the joy of mediocrity? If you are even a little bit like us (and most of the couples and individuals we coach), we can be incredibly hard on ourselves and each other when we don’t meet our own, or our partners expectations…. Read more »

Celebration: The Pause That Refreshes

Individually or as a couple, celebration is the pause that refreshes, when you make it a priority. Make it a priority? Oohh that’s the challenging part that requires attention, intention, and a wee bit of time to communicate about it. Until celebration becomes habitual, you might even need to schedule it. At least that’s our… Read more »

Seasons Of Relationships

As I look out the window at the snow piling up on the branches of the spruce trees, I realize winter has hit. In the past, I’ve had similar realizations about my relationship with Carol. There are seasons of relationships, each one with powerful learnings. The challenge is for you and I to be aware… Read more »

Choice, The Ultimate Empowerment Tool

Everyday, you and I make a lot of choices – sometimes unconsciously. For each one, we get a result which affects how we feel. In these unsettling times in our world, I believe you and I need to become very conscious and intentional about choice, the ultimate empowerment tool. I also believe you and I… Read more »

Rituals In Your Relationship

Consciously (or not), you have established rituals in your relationship. Communicating about, and intentionally planning regular rituals will greatly enhance the quality of your relationship with yourself and your spouse/partner. Or, you can just accept whatever comes along be default. You probably know what happens then. For us, we know from experience the resulting feelings… Read more »

Asking vs Telling: 4 steps for success

Whether I’m working with people in their business or with couples in their relationship, I hear comments regularly that indicate that asking vs telling is an unkept secret for business and relationship success.  Comments such as: “Why doesn’t she understand?  I told her how.” “It’s his own fault because I told him what he needed… Read more »

Accountability In Your Relationship Is Critical

Accountability, especially in your relationship with yourself and your spouse/partner, is critical. Let’s have a chat about it in this episode of the podcast series “Relationships By Design.” Subscribe to Spotifyor Apple Podcasts so you ensure you are notified of each episode.

Emotional Awareness: A life-changer

Emotional awareness?  Or more specifically, what are you feeling right now? You may be thinking, “It doesn’t really matter what I’m feeling.  It’s what I’m doing that is most important.” I believe most of us experience life backwards.  We do activities, experience situations, hear conversations, and allow those things to “make” us feel whatever we’re… Read more »

Mindful About Mindfulness: Decision-making made easy

This morning, after my meditation, I was thinking about mindfulness.  Yes, that sounds ridiculous. I started laughing at myself, too.  “Thinking” and “mindfulness” are two totally different approaches. To be mindful about mindfulness is more appropriate. One of my habits is to overthink a situation, which often has me in an “analysis paralysis” mode.  I… Read more »

The Attachment Dilemma; A big lesson

In the past, Carol and I planned, organized, and facilitated weekend workshops for couples. The expectation was to have 15 couples together for an enlightening learning experience, as well as for them to have a celebration of the work they were doing in their relationships. I found it extremely challenging to market these to capacity. … Read more »