Tag: Carol Ohler

How Do I Hold My Partner Accountable?

When coaching with couples, we get asked this question regularly, “How do I hold my partner accountable for what they said they would do?” It is a great question. Join us to explore some perspectives. I can’t hold my partner accountable, and neither can you.  With that in your mind and heart, what specifically are… Read more »

Your Jigsaw Puzzle Of Life?

What would be different in your approach if you experienced everyday as part of your jigsaw puzzle of life? Would you be inquisitive or forceful? Curious or directive? Present or distracted? There is no right or wrong, yet the metaphor of a jigsaw puzzle of life can help shift how we interact with ourselves, our… Read more »

The Power Between – Change Zone

The quality of relationships change. So why not make the changes to your relationship intentionally and consciously by your design?  To do that takes recognition of the Power Between, rather than power over. Our dear friends, Gail McDonald and Susan Sneath invited us to join them on their show to explore this. OK.  What specific… Read more »

Heart of Relationships: The bigger impact

If you’re a subscriber (and if you actually read/listen to these newsletters), you might recall us talking about the the Heart of Relationships.  Recently, we’ve become consciously aware of the bigger impact this model can have, in your personal life, as a couple and family, in your workplace, community, society and in the bigger world…. Read more »

Gratitude Rituals

Having gratitude rituals can be a super easy way to enhance your relationship. You and I can start this right now, if we choose. Sure, you are busy, yet this doesn’t need to take any additional time.  In fact, it is a time-creator, because it will minimize the time you spend in frustration, anger, arguments,… Read more »

The Power Of I AM

We speak as a way to communicate with others. We also speak to ourselves in our thoughts (if you’re like me, there are many more conversations with myself than with others). Often we use the words, “I am” followed by some description of who we are, which may not be what we really want for… Read more »

Relationship Training? Why Not?

Relationship training in the midst of the COVID-19 pandemic? Why not? Many people are having much more time at home, with their partner, and possibly with kids. (check out the video below) Whether you are in “work-from-home” mode, reduced hours, laid off, or simply because other public events and activities aren’t allowed, this could be… Read more »

The Miracle of Marriage – Or Is It? 4 communication basics for any relationship

Does something miraculous happen when two people get married?  Or is it the communication within the marriage that breeds success? Hmmm? We have two amazing sons, Jamie and Brad. They are incredibly intelligent, creative, kind, respectful, and accountable – leaders in their communities and in our world.  Despite our parental foibles, we must have done… Read more »

Lessons From a Six-Year-Old

I’ve been volunteering with the Summer Reading Program at our local library where I learned some valuable lessons from a six-year-old. We were writing some stories that needed to include specific words. A young man asked, “How do you spell there?” One of the library staff inquired about what type of ‘there’ he meant. He… Read more »

Caring Creates Communication: 3 principles for happiness

How does caring affect communication?  I invite you to notice similarities in the next 4 paragraphs? When coaching with couples, typically a huge amount of time is invested supporting them to create strategies to communicate effectively, so both people feel heard, understood, and cared for. When coaching executives and entrepreneurs, typically a huge amount of… Read more »